Why is public speaking said to be the biggest fear by many American adults, even trumping flying, financial ruin, sickness and even death?
I’m not sure about you, but I felt the fear as real as can be before I realized that I HAVE to speak in order to inspire and encourage more people to break through their fears.
Speaking and doing videos has really boosted my confidence which has, in turn, has changed my life for the better.
You may be reading this saying, “But I don’t want to speak. It scares me too much to get up in front of a crowd.”
Here’s the deal. You have excellence inside of you that other people need to hear. Even if you don’t believe it, I believe it. I KNOW you have something to share.
There is someone out there in the world who NEEDS to hear what you have to share. Don’t deprive them of your brilliance.
How would it make you feel if you were to speak to an audience and someone came up to you after you spoke and said, “What you said really changed my life.” That has happened to me and I gotta tell ya that it feels pretty damn good.
Once I realized that speaking wasn’t about me, but was about serving people in the audience and potentially changing someone’s life, it removed all of my fears about speaking and it made me step through my fears and caused me to enlarge the size of my proverbial comfort zone.
I hear a lot of people say, “When I feel good about it I’ll do it,” or “Once I get my speech memorized I’ll do it,” or “I don’t want to make a fool of myself,” or “I don’t have anything important to say.”
The list goes on as to why NOT to speak. But what about the reasons TO speak, like “It will boost your credibility,” “It will help people see you as the authority in your niche,” “It will show people how brave you are (even if you aren’t feeling brave inside).” And that list goes on, too.
In facing the fear, it is possible to overcome the anxiety you feel when thinking about speaking. This can lead to you finding comfort in expressing yourself in front of others. It has happened to me and I know it can happen to you! It is unlikely to happen overnight, but it can happen.
Try these three steps and then put yourself out there. I’m here for you every step of the way.
1. When you are delivering value to your audience, you can shift the focus from you and how you are feeling and shift that focus to “How can I make an impact?” If you think about it, no one is there to look at you, but is really there to learn something from you. If you are nervous, you cannot put your best YOU out there. Relax and teach them something they want to learn.
2. Think of thoughts that empower you to speak from your heart and soul instead of getting up in your head and being filled with self-doubt and low confidence. What makes you happy? How awesome would it be if you spoke and you literally changed someone’s life because you were willing to put yourself out there? OMG! I can tell you that it is absolutely amazing to be able to have that kind of impact on someone.
3. While being perfect has its place on earth, it doesn’t have its place on stage. You are a human being and, guess what, so are the people in the audience. If you know your topic really well, get up on stage and share your amazing knowledge with others. Why are you holding back on them? They want to know what you know. So it’s time for you to step outside of your comfort zone and deliver it to them.
I’d love to hear from you. When and where are you going to speak?
I’m excited to announce that I will be one of the speakers at Massive Success Breakthrough Feb. 9–11, 2018, in San Diego. If you want 2018 to be your breakthrough year, come join us at this amazing event. Buy your tickets today at www.AttendMSB.com and come out and support me. I hope to inspire others!
Always looking forward,
Lynda M. West
Come hear me speak at Massive Success Breakthrough February 9–11 in San Diego — www.attendmsb.com
Co-Author with Greg S. Reid and John Humphrey of Amazon #1 Bestseller Footsteps of the Fearless
Founder of Living Live With Lynda
Editor & Columnist for Life By Design Magazine, San Diego’s only entrepreneur magazine